It is very easy to label someone wrong, wicked worthless or bad, it is very easy to be judgemental which we are most of the time about most of the things, about most people. But later when we spend some more time and re-evaluate, we regret our judgement. We realise we were either impulsive or were thoughtlessly following others.
When we commit a blunder we do so without realising that we
are committing a mistake. At times it has got nothing to do with our upbringing
or our roots. Yes, there are few traits or behaviours for which our genes are responsible,
our family background is responsible but the most prevailing factor which
dictates every course of action that we take is perhaps 'circumstance'.
Yes, situations can ruin our happiness and force us to take
steps which we would abhor otherwise. Circumstances can break the strongest of
individuals, can snatch every bit of goodness from our soul and steer us
towards misconduct. We can lose hope, self-confidence and slip into a self-destructive
mode, but like everything even the 'bad' side of an individual is also not everlasting.
However, we need a strong support system of family, friends
and well-wishers to overcome the hurdles. Those who lack this care in their
life are perhaps the unluckiest ones but it is never too late to reconcile and reunite. It
is alright to give a large chunk of time to our spouses/girlfriend/boyfriend
and kids and it is ok if our life revolves around them but spending a few precious minutes with our near and dear ones will do us no harm.
I reckon having an extended family to fall back on and a dependable circle of friends will give us a great deal of mental
peace and help us to combat an otherwise stressful life. Sharing and caring has
no alternative, this is something I have learned a hard way. Dealing with life essentially
means dealing with the circumstances, favourable or unfavourable and the bitter
fact is, we do not have any other choice. Even our decisions are influenced by
our circumstances. We have to live till we are dead and that also means
tactfully tackling the circumstances.