R.I.P BRAVE GIRL

My faith has been restored in the Amighty . He saved her. Saved her from the innumerable traumatic ordeals which she would have otherwise gone through if alive. She wanted to live , so do we,the women of this country . All that we want is freedom from inhibitions. We want our husbands ,brothers and other men folk to respect us. We want stringent laws to be enforced for rapists , wife beaters and eve teasers.

True,everything has to start from scratch. I  have no idea how,when , where who, good heavens ,so many questions are crowding my mind right now. The citizenry of this nation need a proper direction . This anger,this anguish and pain has to be channelized into right direction. Most of us do not have the ,courage or the knack of becoming a politician but I believe a right attitude can always be the guiding force for individuals with limited potential.

Government now has a lot of explanation to do in this particular case . But the question is will they? They had to wait till the 23 year old brave woman was officially declared ‘dead’ to label this heinous incident as murder !! Government has to listen to the people who voted for them. Reforming these brutal barbaric criminals or life sentence is simply out of question. Fulfill our demand…hang them. Kill them.
Rest in Peace brave girl. Am sure this time the spark ignited by your sacrifice will transform our mindsets….

DELHI GANGRAPE

A senior politician says rapes are taking place because of ‘provocative item numbers’…..

How do we react to this? And how do we retort when so called moral guardians point out that the brutal and heinous crimes such as rape and gangrape will trim down once the Indian women decide to wear decent clothes? 

Decent clothes !!! Then why do we see these perpetrators targeting women who are fully clad in sarees or salwar kameez? Decent enough right?

Very difficult to comprehend the filthy mindset of these beasts….they could be from slums, from mansions,from any strata, but one thing is common here,they have the least respect for the opposite sex and mostly all of them have been brought up in an environment which is inhabited by wife- beaters and alcoholics.How can we expect men to treat women respectfully when the basic cultural norm is faulty?
Its really overwhelming to see so many friends posting status updates in facebook against such atrocities. But essentially, the need of the hour is to educate menfolk at home and in the society at large to view women as equal to men.

Mayan calendar was not wrong in predicting the Doomsday.I feel world is not a small place to be ruined in a single blow. Its the beginning of an end perhaps. End of everything BAD....

Yesterday a woman ,who came from Nepal looking for her husband,was raped thrice within 24 hours in Mumbai. And we thought Mumbai is a safe place for women!! And how does our esteemed judiciary exactly categorize rare,rarest of rare etc in crimes such as acid attacks and rapes? By the graveness of the victims condition? Her external injury? What about the mental/emotional bruises? High time our judiciary makes amendments. The delay in justice in heinous crimes can only encourage filthy people.

I salute the people of Delhi who have braved the chill apart from lathi charge,tear gas etc to campaign for this cause. Protest against violation of human rights was long overdue. Government has to keep its political interest aside and work towards betterment of the society. We ,the citizens have also realized that we need to play a dynamic role in ushering a change. We are the world afterall !

Eight days and still cannot get her out of my head…the brave girl underwent a sixth surgery yesterday and her condition continues to be critical..perhaps will never be normal…the quality of her future life has been completely ruined by this devilish act. A painful death is what these devils deserve.Should be executed in public, should be lynched. 

“With so many pending rape cases, hanging each of them would mean sending around 60 people to gallows everyday”, lawyers said as the cry for capital punishment grew in the aftermath of Sunday gangrape.Why can’t they gun them down point blank? Kissa khatam .But no,the erudite lot still feels that life imprisonment is the most appropriate punishment.

I am also appalled by the behaviour of the bystanders on that ill-fated day.They could have atleast covered the girl with a shawl or a dupatta. Well, thousands of men and women from different walks of life, mostly young students,  have gathered and held demonstrations at India Gate to protest against the delay in justice.How ironical!! Even after 65 years of independence we are still campaigning for the freedom and safety of women !!

A mere ‘aam aadmi’ like me can only sit and watch while the victims fight for their lives and the rapists roam around freely in the society or serve life sentences in the jail which is no less than a haven for these felons….

The attack on the otherwise nonviolent protest was absolutely unnecessary.Dispersing the agitators,including women and children,beating the journos,breaking their cameras…everything was very much preplanned as is their (Gandhis and PM) conspicuous absence from the actual scene that is the campaign …. .the whole drama about hijacking the campaign and speechbazi by the ministers is nothing new to us.we know pretty well who these antisocial elements are and sent by whom. The youth of our country understands this reasonably well and is not at all shaken by this crackdown.
Yes, a mass protest without a leader can go haywire, but, as of now the outcome has been positive . This crowd consists of JNU students,doctors,engineers,chartered accountants,all of them bright and raring to go….leaders will emerge, just a matter of time………….

People can think I am impractical , especially when I am being so optimistic about something which is so very rare in our country, the 'peoples movement'.commoners voice is seldom heard in our country.This time I have no other option.. I have to believe, need to have faith in the protesters.I have to change myself, and the mindset of my family members,This girl has been so brave , still fighting with death, her tears should not go in vain......................

ETHNIC VIOLENCE IN ASSAM........

Blazing houses….homeless people…emaciated children……..makeshift tents….this is not my Assam…….I abhor these images……..
What is wrong with the world? Sixty fifth Independence Day celebrations are just a few days away and this is what we get to hear from the beautiful North East ! Racial violence ! The first fifteen years of my life spent in Assam is the most magnificent chapter of my life. That is precisely the reason why I am unable to relate to this ethnic violence and hostility.
I owe a lot to this state.I will remain indebted to Assam ,especially Tezpur, where I grew up literally, getting nurtured by the nature in every step during my schooldays.Beautiful people,beautiful faces,sweetness of the language,simplicity of their mannerism, sums up Assam for me. The ample expanse of green wherever we went and the picture perfect rawness of the landscape is still very clearly etched in my memory.It is by the virtue of those well spent years in Assam that I can still wield my pen to bring out the creative best in me. Political upheavals were always there but we never got the whiff of it while interacting with the Assamese people.Infact some of my Assamese teachers who were also my mother’s colleague, would often stay with us during Assam bandhs.I do not remember a single Assamese who ever spoke to us in a discourteous or boorish manner.
The ethnic clashes have distorted and blemished the tranquility and harmony of an otherwise balanced state.I am also pretty astounded at the role that our very dynamic media is playing, specially the print.  A furore of this intensity has been relegated to the fourth page of a leading daily. Well, media rules !! Stories such as 'molestation of a Guwahati girl' occupies a prominent space in the first page,not for one but for many consecutive days. But poor, helpless citizens running helter-skelter, in dirty clothes and eyes filled with tears,perhaps,not enough to enthuse the readers.What is more inexcusable is the insensitive attitude of the central government towards the whole issue. Our esteemed and far-sighted politicians are still thinking about sending the army to control the situation.For goodness sake…its been three weeks already!!
Right now my mind is inundated with a mixture of emotions.The excruciating pain and suffering that I see on the beautiful faces is intolerable. People have lost their homes and belongings , their near and dear ones and most of all ,their hope. It is very easy to write about this tumultuous state of affairs sitting inside the comfort of my living area .I feel so helpless and powerless. Those who have the power to bring this situation under control are busy maligning each other inside the parliament.Even the otherwise poised and well mannered Sonia Gandhi is seen behaving quite erroneously while boosting her party members to ‘shout’ against some objectionable words. But the point is, who will take care of the state which lies in the North - East and needs an immediate attention ?

I am sure, beneath such lovely and beautiful disposition of the Assamese people lies a very strong heart and an indomitable willpower.May God bless them with tolerance and love. Hopefully,with a bit of luck,life will get back to normalcy very soon.All the best Assam………..

NEWSPAPER

THEN-Hope my letter finds you in pink of health and cheer…..

NOW-Hope this message or this mail or this sms or……………

Letters ,postcards,registered letters etc are gradually striding towards the fate of the telegrams and STDs. How many of you know about trunk calls ? OMG, if my son reads this he is going to relegate me to the times of the cavemen!!
Just one thing has survived in the face of this booming technology – ‘NEWSPAPER’.
The charm of this entity has not faded even by an iota over so many years and that is so wonderful . Most of us still want our newspapers ,crispy and fresh,first thing in the morning ,over a cup of tea or coffee.Newspapers have survived the battle with electronic media because they have numerous plus points . The greatest anvantage being the flexibility which it brings with itself . The idiot box will not telecast the news bulletin at our convenience but our newspaper listens to us.We can read it whenever we want to and also stack the old ones ,use some cuttings from them for projects and collage.
Its true that all the leading newspapers have their respective websites but other than the journos and other media professionals how many of us really feel the urge to read a news bulletin on a computer screen?Well ,even the younger lot appreciates the resourcefulness and worth of the print media out of an assortment of means of communication accessible by them
I am pretty confident that newspapers are never going to meet the fate of the Dinosaurs.

GUWAHATI GIRL-ANOTHER ATROCITY.............

Another atrocity , another horrid video in circulation ,another bait for the audience , another scoop for the print media and ANOTHER REASON TO RETHINK .........................................................................

The Guwahati girl is just another news for the media ,be it print or electronic.The TRPs have definitely rocketted at the cost of someones misery and who cares? The girl was molested in full public view for half an hour and no one protested leave alone beat the hooligans.We talk about fighting terrorism,hanging Ajmal Kasab blah blah.............what about these terrorists who are roaming scotfree in our society and making a mockery of the Law and Order ??
Why only women ,I feel even the men are not safe in this city and in our country in general.The clan of anti-social elements is huge and increasing.What is more appalling here is the attitude of the media ,which needs to go  for some serious introspection.The crew which recorded the whole incident justifies its action with the logic that not recording it would have left the girl and her guardians with no evidence.

TWO QUESTIONS-------
a) Does it take half an hour to click someones picture if the sole purpose is that of gathering an evidence?
b)If they had recorded the whole scene to help the girl ,then why did they not maintain the secrecy of the evidence rather than circulating it in the various news channels and social networking sites?

We often talk about equality and parity but all that is theoritical.Whenever an incident like this is highlighted ,fingers start pointing towards the female involved in the whole ordeal.Take for example the Park Sreet rape case.As if it was normal for a woman who frequents nightclubs to be raped,and till date we do not even know whether the actual culprit has been nailed or not.Who is bothered? Those who had to make money by selling that news were successsful,and we the public were happy discussing it during some quality family time.
Another day,the newshungry people get Pinkt Pramanik to talk about.And now this Guwahati Girl.Life goes on and we keep reading and go on watching till a day comes and some girl from our family is tortured or molested or raped in a full public glare.And that is when we realise the embarrasment and the emotional stress that the families of such victims suffer at the hands of police and our honourable judiciary.

I want to strongly make a statement that punishment for these rogues and rapists should be no different than that of the terrorists-THEY SHOULD BE HANGED .........................................................................

IS SHE A 'SHE' ?? WHO DECIDES ??

When media decides to weave a distasteful story and feed us what are we ,the so called commoners supposed to do?Keep mum like mommas best child or react in every possible way ? I am using the word react because revolt,according to me is a very strong word .PINKY PRAMANIK AN ATHLETE......... and the rest ,we all know.Read today,she has been released on bail after spending almost a month in the lock up.

Pinky is apprehensive about getting back her job with the railways.Her social life is definitely  going to suffer as our very eminent media has ghastly tarnished her image.Nobody has the right to publicize her anatomical detais and genetical findings  in such a disgraceful manner.Each and every individual is entitled to his /her right to privacy and hers has been encroached and how !!
All this while,that for almost a month she was not allowed to narrate her side of the story,or may be that was not made public. Media is very clever ,knows the appetite of its readers.Media calculated pretty well that Pinki Pramanik is not a sensitive person but a very sensitive issue which can supply fodder to the insatiable public at least for a week.As I fall into the bracket of AAM ADMI  I would also like to presume that this issue  was deliberately made a front page news to divert our attention from the more serious issues.Must have given our esteemed politicians an opportunity to buy time because the next volley of questions is going to be on the water logging and poor sewerage disposal in the city .

Coming back to the point, the mysterious part of the story is the charge itself..The player has been accused of a rape charge.I fail to understand how could the other woman,her friend ,  level such a horrendous charge against her after spending three years with Pinky under the same roof? Pinky says that her friend had stolen a gold chain and had threatened to circulate her nude pictures if she did not cough up twenty lakh !!

 I am addressing Pinki as HER because that is what SHE prefers.this is not her fault if she was born with some anomalies , many of us are.That said ,why dont we appreciate her for the fact that she did not sit at some corner of her home cribbing and cursing her fate and instead channelised all her energy towards a particular sport.

As of now we do not know who is right or who is wrong however media had a very responsible role to play and they failed,the whole story was in a very  bad taste . Further, to add to our dismay, the research department,doctors ,the lawyers and the police department who usually work in tandem in such cases and are not supposed to let out the details till they reach something conclusive ,also acted in an extremely irresponsible manner.

Its good to know that Pinkis father Sri Durgacharan Pramanik and Ms Jyotirmoyee Shikdar,a former athlete have extended their full support to the girl.Who knows ,this could be a well planned ploy to queer her pitch.......not very uncommon in an arena like this.........DO NOT FORGET THAT PINKY WON A GOLD MEDAL FOR INDIA AT THE ASIAN GAMES .............................................................................................................................

HOME DELIVERY..........

Fast food ,junk food , food court ,the much hyped pizza,KFCs ,McDONALDs - the list is endless and honestly I am not even aware of  most of these . Children sometimes use the term 'downmarket' if  you are not in sync with the latest trends or  will probably think  that you belong to the era of Dinosaurs . I have to confess though that these dishes are all taste bud friendly and has made our lives easy. To prepare an evening snack or a scrumptious meal is in no way a herculean task for the mothers anymore.How many tmes do we try to refrain ourselves from ordering  a pizza or some chinese delicacy? And how many times do we fail to stop our children from doing so? Kneading flour,then frying pooris,chopping vegetables to make a sabzi to accompany it ,so time taking and cumbersome if compared with the food that is just a phone call away,is not it?
Till a few years ago even I did not complain a bit if I had to prepare a range of starters and a full course meal in a short notice.That used to be a happy affair instead as the prospect of earning compliments for the effort would automatically lessen all the pain associated with the process.
The scenario has drastically changed over these last few years. The sprouting of umpteen number of fast food joints and the promptness of the home delivery service  provided by the same has made life easy.
But at what cost? What about our health? What about the various diseases like juvenile diabetes and obesity which is plaguing the younger generation of our country?How many kids are physically fit nowadays?And the most important of all, are we really worried? As parents ,are we not supposed to lead by an example?
Every magazine ,every daily has one or two article on health isues.Some are good whereas some too preachy but who is following them ! It would be wrong of me to generalize this approach but the opinions are always formed based on the behaviour of the majority.
Our mothers and grandmothers also did multitasking,raising more than one child(in most of the cases),sometimes in  a joint family sometimes alone,but without any complaints.Some of them did not even have access to luxury such as gas ovens.There were no refrigeraters which meant cooking each meal separately and spending long hours in the kitchen.they did it and with a smile.
We are blessed to have gadgets like fridge,microwave,OTGs etc to make our life hassle free but has it actually made it so?
To face the challenges of life one needs vigour and  a fit body along with an alert mind.this is not possible without changing our lifestyle and eating habits. I would like to confess that I make a resolution every morning and break it soon after the breakfast.but it has to change. I have to make sure that my son is eating the right kind of food including vegetables before its too late. The patience and energy level that my mother and grandmother were endowed with is definitely in my genes . This is not just my problem but of many I am sure.The dilemma is whether to live life the easy way where the comfort is just a phone call away or go back to the kitchen and work hard for the betterment of future!!!!!!!

MY HUSBAND TO ME.................

1 .(FB-11th APRIL)---- Walking the first few steps after almost 50 days of confinement brought immense relief & a realization. Its been 15 years of my marriage & somewhere the companionship had taken a back seat to compatibility but during the last two months, I realized what it takes to be a 'soul-mate'. My emotions have been handled with so much of affection and relentless care that I have no words to express my feelings for you. Words like 'grateful' and 'thanks' are not for you, my dear wife.I have not said these words for many years now, but let me this time.. I love you my dear
2 . (FB-5th JULY)---- you seem to be consistently excelling in the art of composing excellent verses every day. must say, each of your composition have become a benchmark by themselves, to be bettered in the next. please keep writing! its a pleasure and a pride.

LOVELESS MARRIAGE OR DIVORCE ??

LOVELESS MARRIAGE OR DIVORCE
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Nari manei ki shudhu abola?
anek ke jani jara bhenge porena
Bhangte jane baandh
joar er shathe bheshe jaina
Plabito nodi dai oder shahosh
bonnya ke joy kore egiye jai kato
Mon ke tara boshe korechhe
chancholota drirotar kachhe nato
Ora jakhon bhalobashe kaoke
akash ar samudra tader prerona hoi
Jakhon bhalobasha aghaat paye
bhenge porena,paina kaoke bhoi

Roughly translated, my poem means, there are women who are brave enough to face the challenges that life,love or for that matter marriage brings forth.They have learnt to control their feelings and emotions ,which is a very difficult thing.The vastness of the sky and the depth of the sea is the limit when they decide to fall in love.But these same set of women are unabashed when their love leaves them,leaving them alone to face the social police.They know how to stand alone at the face of adversity.................
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Every love story does not culminate into a  happy ending,Similarly,each and every marriage irrespective of it being an arranged or love ,does not end up being a cherished bond till both the partners decide to face the challenges and upheavals of life together with an equal zest.This is ideally what a marriage should be all about but how many marriages are actually theoritically and practically similar?IN reality mostly , the onus is  unto us women to keep working towards the strenthening part.However the efforts are seldom appreciated,rather they are perceived to be some kind of weakness.Those who earn ,have choices and  opportunities to look beyond the boundaries.Those with no such luck cannot retaliate when taken for granted.This is of course a very personal view,and I have complete respect for those who would like to differ................
But ,a very pertinent question---Do most of us still think loveless marriage is better than divorce?

Someone very close to me is going through this phase where she is unable to decide whether to accept her husband or to divorce him .She is confused as she has a five year old who is fond of his father,she is not independent and her parents want her to patch up despite knowing the waywardness of her husband.
What is more ironical here is the impertinent and nonchalant manner of  her husband.Behaving as if he has not committed any heinous crime by getting involved,quite seriously ,with another woman.

This is not the story of this one woman ,there are many on the same boat.Some have chosen to accept their fate as it comes,some have had luck on their side and got an opportunity to begin their life anew.
Coming back to the point, that is  my poem,yes ,I do know some women,who are fighting it out on their own.Are they happy?Who knows! Why only women,I think even men do not fancy loneliness .......but at the end of the day what matters utmost is ones peace of mind.............

When I look at my two maids,I am extremely amazed although not inspired.They are the most independent women on earth I reckon.Their husbands did not leave them ,rather they left their husbands.One of them actually threw her husband out of the house,the husbands in both the cases were drunkards and spendthrift and spent the hard earned money of their wives on their mistresses....Ido not see any diminished zeal for life in these two females, neither are they bothered about the society and its norms.They earn and spend on whatever and however they want.

Would I be able to do the same when put in a  similar situaton? NO.I do not have the guts.I belong to that category where divorce is the last resort or no option at all.A child needs both the parents even if they are not compatible that is what I personally believe.But then incompatibily,violence etc can marr the innocence of  a child and in such cases it is often sane to separate rather than pushing the child into further compexities.Having said that ,if couples are ready to give their relationship a second chance,having both the parents around, works as an invisible canopy for the child/children. A stress free life is what matters most in this competitive world for our children.................................


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GENERATION GAP- A MINDSET !!

My son wants a pizza as he has scored nine on ten in history.The highest in the class.And very surprisingly I reward him.This was unthinkable when we were kids.The kind of gifts these kids demand range from play stations to cell phone to i-pod and what not.Most of us do fulfil these demands.Families where both the parents contribute towards the family income or are otherwise quite well-off do not probably think twice before giving in to the demands.But there are families who are working hard day and night to make both ends meet,yet their children try to compete with their peers for things so materialistic.
There are parents who feel guilty all the time as they are unable to spend time with their kids due to workload and to compensate for their absence of long hours,they fill their world with costly gadgets.Is this the only solution? I feel, there very high chances that this will spoil the chid,corrupt the young mind.The child might start blackmailing every now and then.He may even get branded as 'a big show off' within his peer group.This is MY perception
But the same child ,shows remarkable maturity when included  in the discussions pertaining to various financial and emotional problems within the family.This inference has been drawn entirely from my childhood experience and is not a mere speculation.
Being a daughter of a working couple I now realise how difficult it would have been for them when they found their children quarreling,arguing and throwing tantrums ,after a sressful day.Their predicaments could have been lessened if they had consellors,child Psychologists and specialists dealing with such situations.But in seventies and eighties  such terms were unheard of.
My parents had to depend on a trial and error method and the one method which clicked was the DELEGATION OF DUTIES AND RESPONSIBILITIES  amongst the siblings.The three of us were assigned specific tasks and were appreciated profoundly for proper execution.
The second method which worked was SHARING.I remember very vividly,when I was in the Eighth standard my mother asked me to help her in the kitchen and while we were preparing the breakfast she explained to me the reasons why it was that both of them had to work and how it would help if I being the eldest one helped her and understood her.It changed me as a person and I felt very proud of myself as my point of view was also heard.
 These are not mere observations,but something which WE have really applied in OUR dealings with OUR son. I am not a working mother, true , but once your child steps into this new horizon called adolescence his world becomes mesmerizing.They start dreaming,day dreaming , thinking,pondering and now you are the one who becomes confused.Unable to understand our child's psychology we often rebuke him for wrong reasons.During such a state of delirium ,I ,often try to recall the methods and tricks that MY parents used to apply on me (us).
We have decided to inhabit his part of the world rather than ask him to follow ours.We have allowed him to watch the tv shows which he likes and appreciate the ones which are based on good subjects.Even if we are all glued to the screen,we are glued as a family.The programs which we do not like !! Well we excuse ourselves very politely citing the negativities of the contents and leave him alone.
This is working and how! He has almost given up watching stupid cartoons.
When my thirteen year old asked for a cell phone , as most of his friends possess one , I refused , very blatantly. I could very well apprehend that my son was going to fall into a trap, very soon.So after lot of debate we decided to gift him a pup, fulfilling his not so unreasonable demand.But again this was not completely unconditional .We advised him to educate himself properly about all the aspects of  pet care and were quite surprised when he actually did so.
So I personally feel ,  one occasional pizza ,or a story book is alright if your child is  treading on the right path.We now realise how important it is for your child to have a companion. This little wonder (golden retriever pup) has changed our lives miraculously.We did not even realise when and how he claimed so much space in our world.We are amazed at our son's parenting skills.I have to admit that for a person like me who has never had a pet, it is quite interesting getting used to the unconditional love of this amazing creature.


The generation gap is just a mindset I believe.If both sides are ready to accomodate then the gap could be bridged with minimal effort..........

WHAT IS SUCCESS?

It is very disappointing  to see a star like VIDYA BALAN succumbing to the coveted number game.Was it really necessary for her to do such an awful item number at this juncture of her career(mala zau de)? Her act and attire were not criticized much in 'The Dirty Picture' as the very concept of the movie had a particular era at its core.But this item number is simply indigestible.It is extremely unfair on her part to take her audience for granted.She is not an amateur,neither is she unintelligent then what could have been the driving force behind this abominably choreographed number? This proves even the most successful people are not immune to the number game.The definition of success is different for everyone , just like fingerprints! What I consider as an yardstick for success may well become the starting point for someone else's  ambitions.But what matters at the end of the day is that one should be happy.

I feel those in the entertainment business need to be more cautious because their activities leave a far reaching impression upon their admirers,specially the young minds,who are very easily lured towards their lifestyle and dressing sense. Which,later on becomes  very difficult to handle if the obsessed person belongs to the middle strata of the society,or probably I am wrong.The specialists are not at all painting a very happy picture as far as india's economy is concerned,but who is going to believe that! The crowd at the malls is definitely painting a different picture altogether.Consumerism is at its peak,and the middle class is not shying away from splurging either.

Quite possibly 'the disposable income' is not at all a botheration for the people in general and no one seems to bother about the method applied to achieve that goal.The means could be fair or unscrupulous ,original or copied,but what matters to most of the people is SUCCESS.Now this success is earned or stolen is hardly the point of consideration........but what about those who believe in the saying- 'hard work pays'!!!!

FACEBOOK---THE GOOD,BAD AND UGLY

Came across this article in a newspaper recently(the telegraph dtd:21.05.12) which says facebook is hampering the social life of  people .It is actually converting the social creatures into' loners'.On the contrary, I think it is so engrossing that a person can utilize it as a platform to vent his/ her feelings and thoughts through his/ her creativity,whether it is writing,photography or posting some useful tips and links,making friends ,interacting with them.The most charming and interesting quality of  fb is the amount of  positivity it brings into our lives through endless encouraging comments.U can write whatever you want expecting minimal or no criticism at all.In a nutshell,a platform to showcase your talents.God has given us the power to communicate so why not utilize it!!

Those are the good points about fb but the other side of the coin is not that pretty though.Often people use this as a tool  to show off .Sometimes there is a huge gap between the real and virtual profile.Very often ,some married women  go on to the extent of flaunting their figure and dresses(wrong kinds) on fb to titillate  their male patrons.They actually enjoy these vulgar comments posted by their male friends forgetting the responsibilities they have towards their husbands and kids.They do not even mind sending kisses and hugs when it is probably their husbands who need them the most . same holds true for  the men who forget the caring wife who might be waiting for them in the dining room while they are busy flirting with their  girlfriends on fb. What is more appalling is the fact that most of these men are hypocrites.They would not allow their wives to wear a particular attire which they find quite attractive when their girlfriends don it.The so called vulgar dress would then become bold.Some of these men are orthodox to the extent that they do not even allow their wives to work lest they  should become too independent, but their fb profile tells a different tale altogether.. I am specifically discussing the married men and women here because the unmarried people are not always answerable to their partners and do have the liberty to terminate a relationship and start anew.

It is good to connect with celebrities as well..Some of them surprise us with their knowledge and  depth in  music,poetry,etc.still their are some who are eternally dissatisfied souls,who keep uploading their vulgar and grossly made up pictures to extract comments ,mostly vulgar and cheap from their fans.Female celebrities who have already stepped into their late thirties and are not 'in demand' know it pretty well that their shelf life is  reaching its expiry date rapidly and hence cannot do without such posts.

Facebook has now allowed teenagers as young as 13 yrs old to open accounts.now this is where the parents have to be very careful if they are allowing their kids on fb.Monitoring them on a regular basis is  a must.The first step would be to send them a friend request.
Facebook has helped me to come out from the self imposed loneliness.It is my 'stress buster' I would say.Everything in this world has had  plus points and minus points and facebook is no exception either.so hang on to fb.......